Archive for March, 2012

March 27, 2012

A little birdy told me…

When you get, married life can be happy, but it will by no means  be easy.  I have found this is pretty true. Sean, my husband, is a wonderful man who wants nothing more than to do well by me and his family. He works hard, and tries his best at everything. Of course we get into little spats, but the majority of the time it’s about who drank the last of the Koolaide or who forgot to switch the laundry. Even though this gets taxing, there is so much more to be blessed about than upset over. He is great at getting himself out of situations, and making me forgive him no matter what, but…

I think what he does best is make me smile.

This I have found is a skill that will help us prevail no matter what. Even after I get home after 2:37 in the morning because my job held me late. Even when I am stressed out because I have two major assignments due and only one night to do them. And what I have found is that it is simple things that make my life completely worth it. By this simple skill he helps to keep me sane. It is funny, even though we have been married almost six months, I still look at him and say, “You’re my husband,” as if it was the first time. I hope for all of you that have been married years and years, you can look at your spouse and just make them smile. Remind them how much you love them, and how looking back on things, even if you would have changed some decisions, that you were blessed that they stuck with you.

Make them smile.

March 24, 2012

Offie Dog at the lake

Today, we took Offie to the lake. Sean wanted to fish, and I will always welcome a nice stroll along the beach. I am glad that usually when we go fishing, it’s Sean that does the actual catching of the fish. I usually get to be distracted by Offie wanting to chase after the geese, or us just playing in the water. Offie can get pretty comical out there. When boats come by and leave big wakes, he doesn’t quite know what to do so he tries to bite them. We have also discovered that if you skip rocks, he will chase after them. You just might scare away the fish.

Even if we don’t catch fish, It is just nice to have that quiet time that tunes out the world. Plus, Offie dog likes to go exploring with his mommy, and we always seem to find something new and exciting. I think that it is simple pleasures like going out to the lake with my dog and my husband that make my stressful life so blessed.

March 15, 2012


No. 1 rule that I have about work is don’t let it consume you, eat you up, and then spit you out. This is almost funny because I work at a restaurant, but not really. As a married woman, a lot of the time I feel like I have four jobs. I am a wife, a full-time student, and I work two jobs. This can get beyond overwhelming, but, thankfully, this doesn’t happen that often.

Sean is always good moral support, and my job as a wife is pretty smooth. I do wish that we had more time together, but when we are 72 and have nothing to do but be with each other, I am sure I will look back and smile. I am still trying to figure out how to juggle everything, while on my unicycle, with a stampede of clowns running by, and the elephant is getting nutty. Yeah, sometimes it feels like a circus, but I know that in the end every bit of hard work, blood, sweat and tears will pay off. Maybe not on this Earth, but in the Bible it says not to store your treasures on Earth but in Heaven. I feel like that treasure trove is definitely worth all the hard work.

March 9, 2012

Things that help around the house

As a new wife there, are things that I used to assume would just fall into place. The dishes would be done, the house would magically be cleaned. After about two weeks, I remembered I wasn’t Snow White. A. I don’t have sweet little birds and woodland creatures to help me clean and B. I can’t whistle. I may have seven little dwarfs running around (my friends), but it is basically just Sean and me. This can create some unwanted stress. I have, however, figured out a few things that have helped me.

The number one thing that I can say to help anyone is just relax.

Life will go on even if there are a few dishes in the sink. Set your goal to keep things clean, but don’t lose sleep over a load of laundry. It also helps life to stay organized. I am terrible at this, but it is something that I am working on. Keeping things under control will help later on, I promise. Figure out what your roommate/spouse is good at cleaning. If you split up the jobs it makes it easier on everyone. One day I hope to have kids and they will do it all for me, and I will call them chores. Ha Ha!!! Oh, another thing, if you have people over all the time, typically they will have common courtesy, but make sure that they know the floor is not a trash can. Also, from experience, it may not be a good idea to let people sleep on your couch all the time. They should have their own bed at their own house, it’s OK to tell them to go use it. As a college student, these are just some things that I have to watch out for.

March 3, 2012

My mom

I know everyone says that their mom is the best mom out there, but I really think my mom could totally take your mom in a the best mom ever contest. I remember when I first found out that she actually had a name, Tami. I just always known her as mom, or mommy, and to think that she had a name was mind-boggling for some reason. It might be because my mom is my hero, my rock and my shoulder to cry on. My mom taught me how to love, and to be strong. She also taught me that sometimes it’s OK to be weak, like a bad cup of tea. Something I didn’t learn from her is humor. You see, I am terribly unfunny and my mom is anything but that. She may have her silly mom jokes, but I wouldn’t trade one punny moment for the world.

To my mom:

I wish that I could explain how much I really appreciate everything about you.  I hope that one day, when I have kids, that they will love me as much as I love you. I hope that I can show kids what it means to live with love and integrity like you have shown me. I hope to teach them the respect and discipline that you instilled in me. If I have a daughter I want to show her what it is to be a woman of God, and that when she goes out everyone can see her light. I am always going to need you mom. I am still your little girl, just with a different last name. I love you mom. You’re the best.