Archive for April, 2012

April 1, 2012

6 Months

And we haven’t killed each other yet! Today is our six-month wedding anniversary, and though it’s the year, five years or 50 years, it still means a lot to me. We didn’t do anything special, no flowers or dinner. It is OK though. What means the most to me is that I mean “I love you” with all my heart, and so does he. We will have been together almost 5 years in November, and it is good to see we are going strong. Something I do think that helped is knowing what to expect. Hindsight is 20/20 so they say and if you have hindsight it is easier to deal with future situations.

I know that a lot of people believe that living together before marriage is not acceptable, but I think if we hadn’t lived together for a year before we might have killed eachother. I say this because, if I didn’t know what I knew about Sean before I married him, and then got thrown into that situation, I would not be as happy as I am now. If that makes sense. Sean is an interesting character. In my earlier post I told you about how he makes me smile. He does but there are a more emotions than just that.

Well now I will tell you a short checklist that I think every potential wife should ponder. It is silly but this is what popped into my head.

1. Is he a happy person, even without you?

It takes two happy people to make a happy couple. If he is dependent on you for happiness then it will get too draining. Sean is a happy guy, and it reflects in our relationship.

2. Is he willing to clean the house, and what can he do well?

You do not want to be stuck doing everything all the time. Find out if he keeps a clean house, or if he is “working on it, what chores he can do well to help make your life easier.

3. Know the basics, and how you both deal with them.

What are your future goals, financial plans, if you want kids, and all of those other basics. It wouldn’t be fun to find out after you are married that in 10 years he wants to be a bum.

4. Know yourself, and be ready to get over yourself.

Your husband probably has little quirks that you don’t even know about yet. My husband likes to leave toothpaste in the sink. IT IS SMALL BUT BOTHERSOME. The thing is YOU HAVE TO GET OVER IT. Tell him it bothers you, but there are bigger fish to fry and you can’t get hurt if he forgets once every other month.

5. Communicate without having a complete mental breakdown.

As women we have to understand that it’s not that guys are dumb; they just don’t think like us. Never try to give your husband the silent treatment thinking that he will realize that he forgot to do something. If he forgot, he probably won’t remember. It is our job to communicate. Even if you are emotional, if he has nothing to do with it let him know. Don’t treat him like an idiot, he should have more common sense than that, but don’t automatically expect him to know. He will be able to deal with your emotions or problems if he understands why.

Have a great day.

Oh and HAPPY ANNIVERSARY! I love you hubby!